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Domestic Violence: (209) 465-4878
Sexual Assault: (209) 465-4997
Youth/Human Trafficking: (209) 948-1911

 

The theory of the Cycle of Violence was developed by Dr. Lenore Walker. It has three distinct phases which are generally present in violent relationships:

  1. Tension Building Phase
  2. Violent Episode Phase
  3. Remorseful/Honeymoon Phase

Outlined below are typical feelings and behaviors exhibited by family members in the various phases of the cycle of violence.

Phase One: Tension Building

Woman feels: Angry, unfairly treated, hopeless, tense, afraid, embarrassed, humiliated, disgusted, depressed

Behavior: Nurturing, submissive, “walking on eggshells,” afraid to express feelings, may use alcohol and/or drugs to avoid situation

Partner feels: Tense, frustrated, disgusted, self-righteous, or jealous

Behavior: Verbally abusive, fits of anger, silent, controlling, arrogant, possessive, demanding, irritable, may use alcohol or drugs

Phase Two: Violent Episode

Woman feels: Frightened, trapped, helpless or numb

Behavior: May try to protect self, hit back, submit helplessly, get away or seek help

Partner feels: Angry, enraged, “right,” jealous and/or frustrated

Behavior: Dangerously violent, has a deliberate desire to hurt or kill, out of control, irrational, “Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde”

Phase Three: Remorseful or Honeymoon

Woman feels: Relieved, angry over the incident, resentful, guilty, hopeful, in denial over the seriousness of the incident

Behavior: Offers excuses for the batterer, may be withdrawn, tries to solve or prevent future incidents, hopes/believes changes will last

Partner feels: Apologetic, remorseful, forgetful about degree of violence, self-righteous, unable to understand why the woman is still angry.

Behavior: Makes promises to change, blames her or others for the problem, may use alcohol or drugs as an excuse

WCYFS cares deeply about the health of its community, supporters, clients and team. Due to rising concerns around the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic and recommendations from government agencies, we have made changes to ensure the safety of everyone.

Effective immediately, the following programs, services and events are limited, postponed or cancelled:

 

In-Person Services are Limited 

  • Our 24-Hour helplines are available for over the phone crisis services.

24-Hour Helplines 
Domestic Violence | (209) 465-4878 
Sexual Assault | (209) 465-4997 
Youth/Human Trafficking | (209) 948-1911 

  • Client appointments are available by phone.
  • Court accompaniment will be on a case-by-case basis at this time. 
  • We are still available to assist with any urgent temporary restraining order (TRO) needs over the phone during business hours (209) 941-2611.

Locations Open

  • San Joaquin Street Office
  • California Street Office
  • Shelters
  • Youth Drop-In Center

Locations Closed Until Further Notice 

  • Lodi Office

Postponed until further notice

  • WCYFS Annual Luncheon

Cancelled until further notice 

  • Support Groups
  • Parenting Courses 

We apologize for any inconvenience and thank you for your understanding and support! Please call us at (209) 941-2611 or check back for any new updates.